What helped me was something similar to that notion. It was my fault, at least in part. In nearly any circumstance, there is an equal amount of blame, for both sides. One person speaks, one person listens. There's always options for blame on both sides. It's never a good idea to hold onto blame that isn't yours, but it's a good idea to keep the side and part that is yours.
It can make you stronger, it can make things make sense, and clear.
Just don't try and hold to both sides. If someone refuses to shoulder their own sides/levels of blame, that's not your problem, nor your fault. You can only be responsible for you and yours; nothing more.
Sure, no problem. Wisdom comes through a lot of painful development. On some level, we all know that. And it's that pain that prevents most from correlating those experiences, from garnering that wisdom. Just embrace the pain as a necessary part of developing. Just remember, while it hurt to fall down when you were learning to walk, the biggest thing you had to learn was HOW to walk, to stop falling. To stop that pain. Sitting down and refusing to try to walk to avoid the pain wouldn't have led you to where you are now.
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on 2007-Nov-26, Monday 06:52 pm (UTC)no subject
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on 2007-Nov-26, Monday 07:06 pm (UTC)no subject
on 2007-Nov-26, Monday 07:30 pm (UTC)It can make you stronger, it can make things make sense, and clear.
Just don't try and hold to both sides. If someone refuses to shoulder their own sides/levels of blame, that's not your problem, nor your fault. You can only be responsible for you and yours; nothing more.
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on 2007-Nov-26, Monday 08:28 pm (UTC)Thank you.
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on 2007-Nov-26, Monday 09:16 pm (UTC)