Staggering
2002-Jul-12, Friday 03:41 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ssurgulI found myself in a very odd social situation the other night. Very odd, and very annoying.
I was reminded while talking with someone I've known for a time how amazingly subtle hypocrisy can be. He spent the better part of 20 minutes bitching and moaning about people who didn't understand him, and were 'just so damn arrogant!' And, yet, so very frequently, I kept hearing him say things that I, and many other people, would easily have found to be truly arrogant.
Why is it that people insist on hiding from what irritates them about themselves? I've told others on a few occasions that we hate most in others what we refuse to see (can't deal with, have the most problem with) in ourselves. I am at least as guilty of that myself. But, it just constantly floors me that others would so blithely move around and fling accusation after accusation about, without ever actually thinking that maybe they have the problem, not everyone else.
If it were just that person, I'd write it off as an eccentricity. But it's not. And, it's not even limited to the furry crowd. I used to bitch loudest against those exhibiting the traits of myself that I despise. That safe bullshit method of trying to assuage a hidden guilt so I didn't actually have to cope with it. Sometimes I still catch myself doing it. But, the ones I've observed with this phenomenon lately... There's clearly no discerning their own issues with that topic first. How the hell did we ever delude ourselves that we're 'grownups' when we can't even tackle the first, worst enemy we all share: ourselves?
I was reminded while talking with someone I've known for a time how amazingly subtle hypocrisy can be. He spent the better part of 20 minutes bitching and moaning about people who didn't understand him, and were 'just so damn arrogant!' And, yet, so very frequently, I kept hearing him say things that I, and many other people, would easily have found to be truly arrogant.
Why is it that people insist on hiding from what irritates them about themselves? I've told others on a few occasions that we hate most in others what we refuse to see (can't deal with, have the most problem with) in ourselves. I am at least as guilty of that myself. But, it just constantly floors me that others would so blithely move around and fling accusation after accusation about, without ever actually thinking that maybe they have the problem, not everyone else.
If it were just that person, I'd write it off as an eccentricity. But it's not. And, it's not even limited to the furry crowd. I used to bitch loudest against those exhibiting the traits of myself that I despise. That safe bullshit method of trying to assuage a hidden guilt so I didn't actually have to cope with it. Sometimes I still catch myself doing it. But, the ones I've observed with this phenomenon lately... There's clearly no discerning their own issues with that topic first. How the hell did we ever delude ourselves that we're 'grownups' when we can't even tackle the first, worst enemy we all share: ourselves?
